Hello Diana I’ve been in a loving relationship with my partner for over 10 years. I’ve always thought we were well suited but recently I seem to lack the desire to have sex. We both have challenging jobs and have to juggle our family and work. Any advice please?
Loss of libido (sex drive) is a common problem which affects up to one in five men, and even more women, of all ages at some point in their life. Often it’s linked to job stress, or declining hormones, relationship issues, pregnancy and breast feeding. When loss of libido is unexpected and lasts for a long time, or keeps returning it is very upsetting for both partners.
Be honest and ask yourself are you both happy in your relationship or do you have doubts or worries about your partner that may account for a lack of sexual desire? Maybe sex is painful for you, or does your partner have problems with erectile dysfunction or ejaculation problems?
Feeling constantly tired, stressed, exhausted or anxious from juggling work and home life, can lead some people to drink alcohol in excess, or take drugs. Both can reduce sex drive, relationship difficulties and dealing with depression will affect sexual desire and libido. A drop in hormone levels at the time of menopause or hysterectomy may be the cause of the problem.
Make an appointment to see you’re GP, especially if your diminished sex drive distresses you or affects your relationship, and discuss possible underlying causes and recommended medical or psychological treatments.